September 04, 2012

Posted By: Shaunescy

Leave a comment either here or on our facebook page to be entered to win a FREE registration for Dr. Alexandra's upcoming workshop in Bozeman.

Saturday, September 15th from 9-12:30

It is well known that the first seven years of a child’s life are the most

impressionable. I would include the prenatal experience. Instead of

asking, “What do we do with these kids today?” I would question, “What are we,

as parents, teachers, and role models in society teaching during these

informative years?” A child is like a sponge, absorbing her/his environment.

Their little sensors are alive, just like new growth on the evergreen trees--taking

in everything--and I do mean everything. As the foundational belief system is

established during this period--some are supportive, but many sabotage our

dreams. For example, “I don’t deserve to be happy, It’s not safe to express myself,

I’m not worthy of being loved.”

It is without exception, that every client who sits in my counseling chair

has been impacted by early childhood experiences: unexpressed emotion,

parental beliefs, adults concepts.

When a teacher comes to school with unresolved issues, and that school

bell rings, chances are a student will reflect her/his disharmony. Reality is a

giant mirror that we can either ignore, deny or be open to the lesson. Our choice.

Awareness is step #1—without judgment. Through observing, listening,

feeling, tapping into our intuition for guidance, and unconditionally loving these

magnificent beings in little bodies, we begin to offer them what they want and

need. Although they are 25% of the population, they are 100% of our future.

We can have the nurturing relationships we want with our children and

students. However, the work must start within. It’s not easy to look at our “stuff,”

but it does lead to being a happier person, which ripples into every aspect of life.

No matter what has transpired in our past, we can learn and grow together as we

become Emotionally Literate. We can have the relationships we yearn for with

our kids. Children turn to violence, drugs, and suicide because they feel separate

and alone. Teen-age girls don’t want babies, they want love.

The wake-up call is getting louder. Closeness is the result of

introspection and the self-examination of one’s Attitudes, Beliefs and Choices (the

name of my 500 page resource book). It’s time to be real! From this comes the

anchor children are looking for as they leave the nest, the bonding and richness

of parent/child relationships. the career satisfaction as a teacher, the pride from

service within the business community. Connecting the pieces does create


Join Dr. Alexandra Sept. 15th for her ”What Are We Teaching Our

Children” workshop to learn Emotional Intelligence and much more. For

more information and to register:

damcclary@yahoo.com or 406.570.0650

Alexandra Delis-Abrams, Ph.D.

P.O. Box 920 Ketchum, ID 83340


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